Reader be warned, this may seem a little "ranty" however, it is meant to be an eye opener.
I realized in high school, my junior year, how different the generations after me were. I noticed they had bigger attitudes, were a different type of "mean", lacked respect, wore less clothing but paid more for it, failed to heed the advice of their parents and the list goes on.
Fast forward 10 years, I am a teacher. The students I see in school are far different from when I was in elementary school. When I came into kindergarten most of us could tie our shoes, we all knew how to write our name, knew our ABC's and numbers...At every grade level children did not come in with homework left undone, that wasn't even thought of! Parent's were involved and THEY WERE ON THE TEACHER'S SIDE!!!!! We would visit the library for books, not games and videos in the summers, parents would request 'summer take home work' took keep kids memories fresh. Today.....when I think of today it makes me so sad.
Today, kids come in knowing every word to TV sitcom songs, how to flash their parents respective gang alphabet but not their ABC's, how to lie, cheat and steal...and above all, how to make excuse upon excuse for why they 'can't' do something.
I AM SICK...AND TIRED of how most American's yes...AMERICAN'S raise their children. I am disgusted with how spoiled children are today. They have no work ethic, understanding of team work, or how to make sacrifices. Most kids today are selfish, spoiled, rude, disrespectful, arrogant, leaches. Sad part is...it's not their fault...it's the PARENT'S fault!
Fast forward a few more years, now I am a mother and a teacher. Now I ask myself how did children get this way? Well I blame a few things but mostly I blame children raising children. That's right, teens having babies and not being parents. Children cannot raise children. No matter how good of a parent you think you are as a teen YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO RAISE A BABY....you can have it all together, you can have all of the support in the world, but you are not fit to be a parent.
You might be saying, 'how can you say that, you don't know'! To which I will reply...yes I do, I was a teen mother. I knew when I got pregnant at 15 I could not give that baby what he deserved. I had a supportive family, I was a straight A student, my family had money to help me if I needed it, and the father was involved. I had the 'perfect' scenario to raise a baby. But guess what, it's not what I have that determines if I am a good parent...it is the time I can invest...As a student, an athlete, and a worker...I would not have time for my child even giving up sports...I would have gone from school to work every night. Or in today's world, school to party and let grandma raise the baby.
Kids having kids means parents being 'friends'. It means 'buying' affection because you don't have time to give because either A you are selfish and out doing your thing...or you really are working your butt off, to which you still have no time with your child.
As a teen I was disrespectful to my parents from time to time, I was selfish at times, I didn't always want to work, even though that is one thing I do have is work ethic, and I was immature. Now when all that mess of a teen is raising a baby that baby learns all those immature ways. I am not the person I used to be as a teen, and that is because I grew, I learned, I experienced, I am who I am because I continued to blossom like I was supposed to.
Please parents, of all ages, refrain from sitting your children in front of a tv because doing anything else takes 'work'. Refrain from giving into 'fits' because you don't want to hear your child scream...discipline that behavior, understand you don't have to give them everything, in fact doing so will hurt them more than help them. Take time with your children, build their imaginations, MAKE THEM PLAY OUTSIDE, limit time spent using electronics, INVEST in your children, they are our future....and right now, it is a future I want little part in.
Things that won't/will happen in our home, hold me to it:
* There will never be a TV or Computer in our children's rooms
* Our children will not have a cell phone before Jr. High
* We will not inundate the underneath of our Christmas tree with gifts
* Our children will be spanked when necessary
* Our children will be punished for disrespect on all levels, no matter how menial the offense
* Our children will be trained to enter all stores without asking things.
* Our children will have chores. They are at our side from day one learning how to do laundry, clean, cook, fix things, tend a garden, make beds etc.
Our parents made us work, didn't allow TV time after breakfast was made, our parents kept us busy learning things..so I will do the same.
America, you can learn A LOT from other cultures. You don't have it together...especially on the parenting front.
I realized in high school, my junior year, how different the generations after me were. I noticed they had bigger attitudes, were a different type of "mean", lacked respect, wore less clothing but paid more for it, failed to heed the advice of their parents and the list goes on.
Fast forward 10 years, I am a teacher. The students I see in school are far different from when I was in elementary school. When I came into kindergarten most of us could tie our shoes, we all knew how to write our name, knew our ABC's and numbers...At every grade level children did not come in with homework left undone, that wasn't even thought of! Parent's were involved and THEY WERE ON THE TEACHER'S SIDE!!!!! We would visit the library for books, not games and videos in the summers, parents would request 'summer take home work' took keep kids memories fresh. Today.....when I think of today it makes me so sad.
Today, kids come in knowing every word to TV sitcom songs, how to flash their parents respective gang alphabet but not their ABC's, how to lie, cheat and steal...and above all, how to make excuse upon excuse for why they 'can't' do something.
I AM SICK...AND TIRED of how most American's yes...AMERICAN'S raise their children. I am disgusted with how spoiled children are today. They have no work ethic, understanding of team work, or how to make sacrifices. Most kids today are selfish, spoiled, rude, disrespectful, arrogant, leaches. Sad part is...it's not their fault...it's the PARENT'S fault!
Fast forward a few more years, now I am a mother and a teacher. Now I ask myself how did children get this way? Well I blame a few things but mostly I blame children raising children. That's right, teens having babies and not being parents. Children cannot raise children. No matter how good of a parent you think you are as a teen YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO RAISE A BABY....you can have it all together, you can have all of the support in the world, but you are not fit to be a parent.
You might be saying, 'how can you say that, you don't know'! To which I will reply...yes I do, I was a teen mother. I knew when I got pregnant at 15 I could not give that baby what he deserved. I had a supportive family, I was a straight A student, my family had money to help me if I needed it, and the father was involved. I had the 'perfect' scenario to raise a baby. But guess what, it's not what I have that determines if I am a good parent...it is the time I can invest...As a student, an athlete, and a worker...I would not have time for my child even giving up sports...I would have gone from school to work every night. Or in today's world, school to party and let grandma raise the baby.
Kids having kids means parents being 'friends'. It means 'buying' affection because you don't have time to give because either A you are selfish and out doing your thing...or you really are working your butt off, to which you still have no time with your child.
As a teen I was disrespectful to my parents from time to time, I was selfish at times, I didn't always want to work, even though that is one thing I do have is work ethic, and I was immature. Now when all that mess of a teen is raising a baby that baby learns all those immature ways. I am not the person I used to be as a teen, and that is because I grew, I learned, I experienced, I am who I am because I continued to blossom like I was supposed to.
Please parents, of all ages, refrain from sitting your children in front of a tv because doing anything else takes 'work'. Refrain from giving into 'fits' because you don't want to hear your child scream...discipline that behavior, understand you don't have to give them everything, in fact doing so will hurt them more than help them. Take time with your children, build their imaginations, MAKE THEM PLAY OUTSIDE, limit time spent using electronics, INVEST in your children, they are our future....and right now, it is a future I want little part in.
Things that won't/will happen in our home, hold me to it:
* There will never be a TV or Computer in our children's rooms
* Our children will not have a cell phone before Jr. High
* We will not inundate the underneath of our Christmas tree with gifts
* Our children will be spanked when necessary
* Our children will be punished for disrespect on all levels, no matter how menial the offense
* Our children will be trained to enter all stores without asking things.
* Our children will have chores. They are at our side from day one learning how to do laundry, clean, cook, fix things, tend a garden, make beds etc.
Our parents made us work, didn't allow TV time after breakfast was made, our parents kept us busy learning things..so I will do the same.
America, you can learn A LOT from other cultures. You don't have it together...especially on the parenting front.
One of the other main things we as parents must do is model a Godly life!!! I know you believe that too! We must teach our kids to love and serve others as Christ did! If they see us doing that, they will grow up doing that. If we as mom's take a meal to someone, let your kids help make it and go with you to take it so they can get the joy of serving! Our kids will actually grow up loving people, what a concept!!!! Also kids these days need to be in church every Sunday, and every chance they get. It is not an option or up to them IF they go. If parents model that lifestyle, then children will follow!! It is a major blessing God gives us as parents to be a parent and a huge responsibility! Time flies by and before you know it, your kids are grown up and all gone out of the house. Take every minute you can to love,teach, and just spend time with your kids!
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